Funny, isn't it, when folks share their drama with you, your perspective on drama changes. Life doesn't go according to plan. Any plan. Plans never include illness, floods, heartbreak or the big one: death.
You've fretted and wrung your hands over the cards that fate has dealt you. Then when you listen to someone else describe events of life going wrong, it seems clear that there is no wrong.
Life goes like it's gonna go. There's a beginning and there's an end. Oh, you might as well buckle your seatbelt and take your vitamins, but don't be expecting to live forever and don't plan on love lasting.
Teslas will rust and shores will erode.
Give in to it all and notice the beauty. Don't ever take any love for granted. Don't hurry past jasmine. Scrub your memory of the sad parts of any romantic affairs and cling to the love.
Now I don't know that I would take advice on such manners from a man like me. I don't know that it's a good idea to listen to anybody on such things. I will offer this anyway, for what it's worth. Love without expecting anything in return. Love hard and love unconditionally.
Inevitably you will screw up every now and then. When you do, love better and love harder. Keeping score is what ruins it.