If you're at all like me, you have to work hard to stay outta' your own way. Happiness is not a goal. It really comes down to mindfulness. Joy is just a by-product of living. Of course sorrow is, too.
We're all pretty sure that we're not judgmental, aren't we? Far be it from me to accuse you, but I've got my opinion. Sometimes I worry about what all of the folks who are smarter than I am are thinking about me.
Then I realize that if they're all that bright, they're not thinking about me at all.